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Addressing Baby Anxieties

Preparing to Leave Your Little One

   We recently had our first encounters with baby anxiety! My husband and I had to attend to an unforeseen family matter…fortunately his mother was in town and we had a trusted sitter available. I think it goes without saying that you should always leave your little one with someone that you trust and know well.

Unfortunately, we found out later that our baby girl was upset the entire evening. We left her again in the same week and since then and have had a much calmer baby.

Here is what we did:

  1. Ease into the departure. I have seen parents “sneak out” in order to avoid baby anxiety. Perhaps that works too… In our case, my baby girl saw us leave and was seemingly upset with the abrupt departure. Now when we leave her we ease into leaving by leaving one at a time and sitting with her while she engages with the sitter.

 

  1. Bring his/her things. We truly enjoy having our baby stay in our home within her comfort zone and with her things (babies have so much stuff…and it’s BIG). However, when we do leave the house I always bring a couple things that will be comfort to her like her favorite toy, blanket, and portable bed.

 

 

  1. Other kids help. My little one is an only child but I have noticed that when there is another little one she is very easily distracted and engaged in the interaction. Finding sitters with children has really helped.

 

  1. Find a fun sitter. Our siblings have been really great with the baby. Likewise, the baby is excited to see them and really thinks they are fun. This excitement seems to help with the fact that mom and dad are leaving.

 

 

  1. Comfort Food. Well, we are not the only ones comforted by food! I prep extra bottles and seperationanxietybabysnacks for my little one. These seem to comfort her in the absence of mommy and daddy.

 

  1. Start out little. It helps to leave for short periods of time and extend them little by little. This helps the baby understand that mom and dad leave but they also return. It should help to reduce worry.

 

 

  1. Do it often. One mistake my husband and I made was not leaving her with other enough. I have been a stay at home mom since she was born so she has spent very little time without us around. We are not getting into the habit of leaving her with a family member at least once a week EVEN if we don’t need a sitter. My hope is that this will ease her anxiety when away from us and help her build relationships with extended family members.
  2. Ask for a check-in. I realized that sometimes I know what will calm my little one but others may not. I have learned to ask the sitter to check-in with me if they are having trouble calming my little one. Opening this dialogue often helps relieve the baby’s anxieties.

 

If you have ideas for easing baby anxieties, please leave them in the comments. Have any of these tips worked for you? Please let us know about them!

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26 thoughts on “Addressing Baby Anxieties

  1. Hiba Boutari says:

    Indeed! I have several nephews and nieces and I have noticed that when there are other children present, separation seems a bit easier on them. Will keep these tips in mind!

  2. Ashley says:

    My youngest has trouble staying with my mother in law. But we do the sneak out thing and plus my older daughter helps out a lot. There being other kids around does help ease that separation.

    • theconservativemommy says:

      I hope this helps. Honestly, we are always sad to leave our little one but understand that she needs to be comfortable with other people and know that mommy and daddy leave but they come back too.

  3. Samantha says:

    I run a fairly large parenting blog on tumblr and we get questions quite often about leaving kids for the first time. Your article is perfect for me to link them to, to put them at ease! :)

  4. Liz says:

    My kiddos had to go to daycare pretty soon after I gave birth and I went back even earlier. I always felt sad but I remember the joy of seeing them when I picked them up. And they were happy to see us. As they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder. But we also make sure they feel safe before we leave with lots of hugs and the occasional stuffed animal.

  5. Lauren White says:

    Our little one will be 11 months in two weeks and I can count the number of times I’ve left her (except for going to work). I am still so attached. I think it’s because I am a working mama and it’s hard to leave her. I miss so much of her while I’m at work that once I’m home, we’re attached by glue!

    • theconservativemommy says:

      She is learning that mommy always returns when you leave for work. I totally understand not wanting to leave her. ..that’s our struggle too! I really wish that one income was still substantial nowadays!

  6. Shirley Wood says:

    This can indeed be a big problem. I once had to change babysitters completely because my daughter didn’t like folks who were keeping her. We have to be in tune with our children. Thanks for sharing with us at the Merry Monday party.

  7. Tanya says:

    These are great suggestions! It’s been so long since mine were little. I’ve forgotten what it’s like to have to leave them. Thanks for linking up to Small Victories Sunday Link Up!

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